Becoming centered is a skill that anyone can learn. Being centered is all about becoming balanced, resilient and optimistic. Our signature 4-StepsTM approach is designed to teach you these skills through learning and practice. The 4-StepsTM are:
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The 4-StepsTM Approach: The Four Skills
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- Mindfulness: Becoming aware.
- Compassion: Being helpful and kind.
- Insight: Recognizing our active beliefs.
- Reframing: Shifting our beliefs to something more reasonable and balanced.
The order matters. Each step builds on the one before it: awareness first, then kindness, then understanding, then change. Without compassion, awareness just gives your inner critic better material.
These are all skills that anyone can learn!
Two other ideas are worth knowing from the start. They apply to all four steps. The first is that your emotions are not random. They are a direct reflection of your current level of well-being, which is why they change when your beliefs change. The second is that every difficult emotion, however complicated it feels, comes down to one of three themes: trust, value, or acceptance. Trust is the belief that you can handle what comes your way. Value is the belief that you matter and that your experiences and efforts have worth. Acceptance is the ability to accept what has happened and to distinguish what you can and cannot control. All three come up again later in this course.